Is nearly 14 too old for Love Bombing?

boom (Guest) on Tuesday, September 25 2012, 12:16 PM
Hi,

My son is going to be 14 in a few months, is it too late for me to try this with him? He has issues with anxiety, control, aggression, tantrums, memory and behaviour. These have increased steadily since they began when he was receiving treatment for cancer at age 8. When I read your theories about the cortisol levels, this immediately struck a chord as someone has mentioned this before in relation to my son - and suggested the 'shaking' methods recommended for adults which can help to reset your cortisol levels after a traumatic event.

Any advice would be much appreciated.
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    Replied by oj on Sunday, September 30 2012, 09:58 PM · Hide · #1
    It does depend a bit on how independent and grown up he is, and your relationship with him. It is perfectly possible that he will engage with the idea and you will be able to do it fully with him. I suggest you run it past him: 'how would like to have a weekend with me where you are completely in control of what we do, you decide what we eat, what we do, when we do it'? Odds are he is going to say yes in answer to that question! The issue will be whether he is able to allow himself to relax and be a child again when entering the LB zone. Also, with older children, the telling them that you love them bit has to be done a bit less full-on, otherwise the child is liable to look at you as if you have gone nuts. Give it a go, good luck, and let me know how you get on. OJ
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