Computers?

LAA (Guest) on Monday, October 01 2012, 09:07 AM
Hi, I have a 7 year old who has had hearing loss now corrected but to be frank is a pain in the backside. He argues constantly about everything from dawn till dusk, won't get dressed, argues about coming down for breakfast, getting washed, putting his coat on etc etc etc. We are in the process of rewarding him for everything he does without complaining trying to make him more positive about everything. I have found that he gets even crankier (violent towards me and throwing objects) when he has been on the computer or the DS. We do restrict his time on these items and they are usually used as a reward for example doing his homework when asked will get him 30 mins on the DS. My question is how do I love bomb him and allow him to pick all the activities we will do when I know that he will go straight for the DS/computer which just makes him worse? I look forward to hearing any suggestions. Thanks
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    Replied by oj on Wednesday, October 03 2012, 04:59 PM · Hide · #1
    The interesting thing is that if you can get 48 hours with him for LB, either taking him away for the weekend or at home, although he will probably initially start with the computer, in all the cases i have encountered, he gets bored by it sooner rather than later. Join in with him doing the computer while he does it, if you can. After a bit he will start looking for other activities and become surprisingly interested in doing other stuff with you, like even playing. I know it sounds odd, and there may be tantrums along the way as he seeks other means for winding you up, but if you can stick it for 48 hours you will be surprised by the extent of the change in him. When you get back there will be some backsliding perhaps, but if your relationship with him is on a different trajectory, he may well find your company much more rewarding than the computer. I know it sounds improbable, but i lay money you will be surprised by the change. Good Luck!
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